Before you can face the arduous task of deciding what to do next, whether it’s seeking marital counseling or filing for divorce, you must first determine whether your issue is really fair. Of course, the best way to know is to get assurance from your spouse, the person with whom they may be cheating or both. However, we also understand that simply hoping for a confession does not alleviate your anxious worries right now.
Whether you have a passing concern about new habits or are worried that your spouse is cheating on you, here are some indicators of cheating to look out for.
They’ve Started Caring More About How They Look.
To impress the person they are having an affair with, your cheating spouse may start a new fitness program, get a haircut, buy new clothes, and perhaps drop a few pounds. The increased focus on appearance may indicate that your partner is cheating on you. They may become defensive and/or uncomfortable if you bring up the topic of the recent upgrade to their look.
They’re Extra Secretive Now
Secretive actions may indicate infidelity. For example, your partner can do a few things to hide their digital footprint from you: cleaning their browser’s history, putting away their phone, closing tabs and windows as soon as you walk into the room, and switching passwords they’ve previously shared with you.
A cheating spouse may set up a new line of credit or bank account to fund an extramarital affair, as well as a new line of communication (and phone) to facilitate more discreet conversations with the other person. They will lie and make up explanations if you ask about their strange behavior. They are very prone to lie about the affair if questioned. They might do weird things, like make calls from the basement.
Spending Habits Are Out of Control
Using a credit card to make purchases can be key in exposing a cheater. Spending that suddenly spikes or shifts significantly may indicate infidelity on the part of your partner. Examine your partner’s debit and credit card transactions closely for signs of spending habits and irresponsible tendencies. There may be an affair if there is a noticeable increase in expenditure on things like clothes and jewelry, meals out, and hotels. When you dig deeper into your spouse’s expenditures, you can find out about their extravagant trips, which they may have been characterizing as business trips. They may start taking out large sums of cash to cover their real spending habits.
If your spouse is spending frivolously on gifts, trips, or anything else you may deem as excessive, document this new pattern. The court may award you more in a divorce proceeding in light of this financial waste.
Criticism of You Is at An All-Time High
To rationalize their infidelity, a cheating spouse will likely direct their rage at you. Their harsh judgment of your looks and decisions may lead you to believe that you are to blame for any tension in the marriage. Living with an unfaithful partner might leave you questioning your sanity and self-worth. A cheating partner may act selfishly and try to place the blame for their affair on you. There is a correlation between a partner’s seemingly cruel need for “space” and their involvement in an extramarital affair.
It Seems They Cannot Relax
Having an affair requires a significant amount of free time, and your partner will likely lie about their whereabouts to accommodate it. More often than not, they will be “working late” or “out with coworkers.” They may be “working” more hours away from home so that they may spend more time with another person. They will put the affair ahead of spending time with their families, and as a result, they may miss important occasions like their children’s sports games, parties, and accomplishments. A new schedule (“I have to stay late at the office every Monday”) will be established early on in the affair so that your spouse can make consistent time for the affair.
Ending Note
Protecting your mental and financial health is essential if you suspect your partner of cheating. Don’t let your spouse’s infidelity ruin your financial stability by not keeping track of your money. Your partner could become so engrossed in the newfound passion of the affair that they lose all sense of fiscal responsibility and might cause a partner to waste a significant amount of money. They might even start footing the bill for their significant other. As soon as you become aware of the affair, take steps to safeguard your interests.
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Divorce is confusing, irritating, and, yes, traumatic. However, empowering yourself with the support of a trusted lawyer is invaluable. We’ve worked with clients just like you and 100% understand what you’re going through. You’ve come to the right place if you’re wondering, “Where can I find a family attorney near me that can protect my rights?”. Our Arizona divorce & family lawyers take on the task of guiding you through this experience and fighting to protect your rights. Contact our office today for a confidential consultation about how we can help you.